Some people wander through life aimlessly blaming their situations, parents, society etc., for their problems and pitfalls in life. That is so far from the truth!
Every path that you’ve taken in life, you’ve had a choice. I could go through a list of famous people, but let’s take me for example.
I come from a childhood where there was domestic violence in our home. My Mom did the best that she could to keep my younger sister and I sheltered from what was going on. For as long as I can remember, my Dad was verbally and physically abusive to my Mom. He even called me and my younger sister out of our names - a name to horrible for me to ever mention. We saw my Dad hit my Mom, wave a gun in her face, drive a knife in the kitchen cabinet door just missing her face, throw items at her, shove her out of the car, she was told she was stupid, ugly, fat and other horrible things.
There were times where they were happy as a couple, but we never knew what was going to set him off. For a while, my sister and I thought it was us, we must have been the problem. After some years, they finally divorced (thank God) and we had some peace.
Well, at some point in my young life, I was faced with a choice regarding this situation. I could have made a number of choices that would have dramatically changed who I am today. I am proud that I didn’t use past hurts or circumstances dictate my future.
After many years, I have forgiven my Dad and now have a relationship with him. I didn’t feel hatred or resentment to other men prior to my forgiving him, but I knew that if I was to be successful, really successful at anything I would have to forgive. Heck, God has forgiven me for my many sins so what made me so high and mighty that I couldn’t forgive my own father.
My whole point here is to say, we are all faced with choices, some are simple and some very challenging and maybe not so clear. These choices shape our futures forever and it is up to us to take responsibility for our lives. Let the choices that you make throughout your life be choices that you made consciously without using an excuse for doing so. I believe that you can control your future while here on this place called earth because life is about choice; so when making a choice ~ choose deliberately….I do!